egui_extras: Make serde an optional feature (#4641)

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All the other crates in egui have serde as an optional dependency -
which is great! But sadly egui_extras unconditionally includes it, which
adds a bunch of code to stuff that may not care for it. This PR gates
serde support behind a new `serde` feature.

This is a breaking change; if that's undesirable then we can add it as a
default feature instead, though that wouldn't match any of the other
crates.

crates/egui_extras/Cargo.toml

@@ -60,17 +60,22 @@ svg = ["resvg"]
 ## Enable better syntax highlighting using [`syntect`](https://docs.rs/syntect).
 syntect = ["dep:syntect"]
 
+## Derive serde Serialize/Deserialize on stateful structs
+serde = ["egui/serde", "dep:serde"]
+
 
 [dependencies]
-egui = { workspace = true, default-features = false, features = ["serde"] }
+egui = { workspace = true, default-features = false }
 
 ahash.workspace = true
 enum-map = { version = "2", features = ["serde"] }
 log.workspace = true
-serde.workspace = true
 
 #! ### Optional dependencies
 
+# Serde for serializing state
+serde = { workspace = true, optional = true }
+
 # Date operations needed for datepicker widget
 chrono = { version = "0.4", optional = true, default-features = false, features = [
   "clock",